Wednesday, April 24, 2013

13 Leadership Quotes And Principles From Home Run – The Must See Movie Of The Year

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Last evening I had the privilege of seeing Home Run, a feel-good movie about personal redemption, second chances, and finding freedom from addiction and anger.  You will see yourself in this film.  
Cory Brand, played by Scott Elrod, is a professional baseball player struggling with anger and alcoholism resulting from childhood abuse from his father.
After numerous legal and public relations issues, Brand is forced to return to his Oklahoma childhood home and enter a 12-step program called Celebrate Recovery.  While there, Brand is forced to confront his personal demons and finds meaning in his life and for those he loves.
For those unfamiliar with Celebrate Recovery, it ”is a biblical and balanced program that helps us overcome our hurts, hang-ups, and habits.  It is based on the actual words of Jesus rather than psychological theory.  20 years ago, Saddleback Church launched Celebrate Recovery with 43 people. It was designed as a program to help those struggling with hurts, habits and hang-ups by showing them the loving power of Jesus Christ through a recovery process. Celebrate Recovery has helped more than 17000 people at Saddleback, attracting over 70% of its members from outside the church. 85% of the people who go through the program stay with the church and nearly half serve as church volunteers.”
Celebrate Recovery is currently in over 19,000 churches worldwide, including my own.
The following are 13 leadership quotes and principles from this amazing film:
  1. The Power Of A Father’s Influence – All fathers, knowingly or unknowingly, provide intentionality and direction for their children.  Corey’s abusive father greatly determined his son’s self-worth and behavioral patterns.
  2. Fathers Often Determine Their Children’s Level Of Confidence – Fathers have the ability to make their children feel like they can accomplish anything.  Or, they can make them feel worthless.  Fathers, what future are you pointing your children towards?
  3. Our Actions Have Consequences – Even with his status as a professional athlete, Brand could not escape the consequences of his actions.  Neither will we.
  4. “Why don’t you just shoot Bambi next time?” – Sometimes our behavior is so poor that it reaches a point of being laughable.
  5. “I still can’t believe they talk like that in church.” – During Cory’s first counseling session, a gentleman discussed the challenges he faced with sexual addiction.  The most effective churches are the ones where people can be real and authentic about the struggles they face.
  6. “I’m Cory and currently struggling with my agent.” –  The people we surround ourselves with will greatly determine our future success.
  7. “Nothing great happens when you hold back.” – A tree’s fruit is out on the limb, not near the trunk.  The best leaders know nothing great happens without a pioneering sense of adventure and bravery.
  8. “It takes courage to be a parent.  It takes bravery to lead them…Parenting is not for cowards.” – The most important roles men play is husband and father because everyday we set precedent and we send others forward into a time we cannot see.
  9. “The hurt inside of you is going to hurt Tyler.” – These are the words of Brand’s high school girlfriend Emma played by Dorian Brown.  Emma was referring to Brand’s inner-pain being transferred to her son Tyler.  It is true, hurt people can and do hurt people.
  10. “Abusive parents warp your sense of who God is.” – To a child, your concept of God is primarily shaped by your parents.  Specifically, it is shaped by your father and how he treats you.
  11. People Can Change For The Better - There is always hope to change.  Your past does not have to pre-determine your future.  When an individual experiences the deep, transformational love of Jesus Christ, anything is possible.
  12. “I used alcohol my entire life to replace the love I never received from my father.” – Every child is born with a deep desire to find the love and acceptance that can only come from their father.  When a void exists there, people will look for counterfeit options such as sex, drugs, alcohol, status, fame, their careers, and/or success.
  13. There Does Exist A Father Who Deeply Loves Us – Perhaps you suffered from a father who was abusive, hurtful, demeaning, showed conditional love, or even abandoned you.  This is something that will be with you for your entire life.  But a reality exists that you also have access to a Heavenly Father who deeply loves you, will never forsake you, thinks the world of you, is crazy about you, and died for you so that the two of you can spend every moment for eternity together.  His name is Jesus Christ.
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10 Things Pastors Should Know About Thanking Wealthy People

10 Things Pastors Should Know About Thanking Wealthy People

This past week I had two extensive coaching sessions with pastors regarding how best to thank financial leaders, otherwise known as wealthy people.
There are many misconceptions about the important topic of engaging those with significant financial resources.  Therefore, I would like to pass on 10 pieces of critical information that all pastors and church leaders need to know.
Because many people in their lives use them for their money, financial leaders are often very lonely.
  • Sadly, church leaders have many times in the past used the wealthy in their churches as well.
  • To correct this mistake, many church leaders have overcompensated and chosen to ignore them.  This too is a mistake.
  • Pastors and church leaders, rather than using or ignoring financial leaders, the correct approach is to develop them.
So how do you develop financial leaders?  Let me suggest seven ways:
  • You can’t leapfrog leaders, especially financial ones.  Give them access to you.
  • Communicate with them early and often.  Make them early adopters.  Give them information.
  • Make their spiritual needs a priority.  Be their pastor.
  • Invest in a relationship with them with no strings attached.  Go to their place of business and walk through it.  Invite them to a sporting event.  Enjoy a cookout together.
  • Connect them with other financial leaders.  Remember, they are lonely.
  • Find out about their business, their children, their aging parents, and their marriage.  Pray for them.
  • And finally, say “Thank You”
Obviously you want to shake a person’s hand and personally tell them “Thank You” but a handwritten note is also very appropriate and deeply appreciated by the recepient.
To assist you, the following is a sample Thank You note you are welcome to modify to fit your unique ministry environment and utilize:
Dear Brian and Sonya,
Thank you for your continual generosity to Fellowship Bible Church.  Because of that generosity, our mission of making everyone mature in Christ is becoming a reality.  Our church recently launched five new small groups, hired two additional full-time staff members in our Children’s Ministry, helped feed 500 under-resourced families just miles from our church for a month, and most importantly, witnessed 25 freshly-redeemed people enter the waters of baptism.
Your generosity is helping change lives for eternity.  Thank You!  Thank You!  Thank You!  I’d love to grab a cup of coffee and catch up with what is going on in your life.  Please call my assistant and we will setup a time to get together.  I look forward to seeing you,
Your Pastor and Friend,
Brian
3 Ways Pastors Respond To Financial Leaders.  7 Ways To Develop Them.  1 Thank You Note.  Pastors and church leaders, if you know and implement these 10 things, you will do a great job developing and thanking the wealthy people in your church.

The Top 10 Leadership Posts I Read The Week Of April 15th

The Top 10 Leadership Posts I Read The Week Of April 15th

The following are The Top 10 Leadership Posts I Read The Week Of April 15th.  There is a great cross-section of incredible leadership insights that every leader, Christian or otherwise, should read.  Check them out and let me know your thoughts.
  1. Managing The Tension Between Leadership And Vision by Paul Alexander.  Are you a pirate?  Read the post to find out.
  2. 3 Cultural Trends Impacting Your Church Today (And What To Do About Them!) by Rich Birch at www.unseminary.com
  3. Be Patient And Don’t Elope: When Hiring Goes From Good To Ghastly by Jenni Catron
  4. First Ladies Of The Church by Joshua DuBois of www.TheDailyBeast.com
  5. Pat Summerall Remembered For Christian Faith by Tim Ellsworth at Baptist Press
  6. Even In Wake Of Boston Marathon Tragedy, We Can’t Change Who We Are by Peter King of Sports Illustrated
  7. 6 Lessons Hollywood Is Learning From Silicon Valley by Nicole LaPorte at www.FastCompany.com
  8. 3 Tips To Fight Right by Jessica Tillman at www.Inc.com.  An absolutely important read  for church leadership teams debating how to best advance mission and vision.
  9. The Future Of Success by Scott Williams.  This post contains an unbelievably insightful 6-minute interview with Seth Godin.
  10. The Journey Of Three Pastors by Pete Wilson.  Moving piece about three highly influential evangelical pastors confronting the issue of HIV and AIDS.
That is my Top 10.  What are some of the best posts you read this week?

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

The New Work as Worship Network site with RightNow

The New Work as Worship Network site with RightNow  
 
Seven years ago a conversation began here on this Business as Mission Network site. It was a conversation that started because too many Christians spend a great deal of time at work and yet they don't see how their work intersects with their faith. 
 
Over the years the blog posts sparked many conversations that have become a regular part of our DNA with the 75 people on our RightNow team. Today, one of our deep passions at RightNow is helping people realize that there isn't a divide between the sacred and secular parts of our lives and that working with our God-given skills can be an act of worship.
We might spend 2 hours of our week at the church building or in a small group. This kind of worship is biblical and a vital rhythm in the life of a Christian. But during the other 166 hours of our week, we have just as much potential to worship the God who created us. Our time at church and small group should launch us out into the world-which includes the marketplace-prepared to take the hope of Jesus with us.
Currently, there are pockets of churches and ministries promoting a part of the work as worship message. Some focus on how to give money as a business person, while others focus on how to do evangelism in the workplace or build a business overseas.  Some focus on business leaders, others on employees. Our RightNow team is committed to creating content for business leaders and the Church that champions a holistic viewpoint of work and faith.
 site is merging with our new WorkasWorshipNetwork.org
 site to put a bigger dent in the sacred and secular divide by having this conversation on a much bigger platform. You'll continue to find the same news updates but today you can check out 40+ different video stories and illustrations as well as updates on our growing Work as Worship Conference.  In order to communicate a complete and biblical picture of work and faith, we've defined 8 tenants of the Work as Worship message that inform all the content we create in this area, including our Work as Worship conference and video resources. You can read the full list here (www.workasworshipnetwork.org/what-is)
 
In the next 30 minutes you'll be getting an email from  work@rightnow.org highlighting the new site. So check your mail filters and make sure it gets through. It will be the first of our monthly email updates from the new site. 
 
You can also continues to get the news updates on the new blog or by following me on twitter (@justinforman)
 
Justin Forman 
Executive Vice President 
RightNow
 

3 Things That Cause Leaders To Change

3 Things That Cause Leaders To Change

No one likes change but a baby.  That is one of my favorite statements because people naturally resist change but it is desperately needed.  In addition to leading organizations that must constantly change, leaders must individually go through that process as well.
This past Sunday, Senior Pastor Marlan Harris of New Life Church delivered a message to the congregation of Fellowship Bible Church on the subject of change.  As I listened to Pastor Harris speak, I felt the principles were applicable to anyone in leadership.  See if you don’t agree.
The primary ingredient needed for change in a person, church, or business is repentance.  We hate the way things are and the things that we do.  True repentance causes us to change three things:
  • Change Our Mind – The things we think about.
  • Change Our Heart – The things we love and the things you hate.
  • Change Our Hands – The things we do.
Repentance involves not only stopping certain habits and behaviors, but also starting new ones.
Change in a person or organization rarely happens by choice.  Rather, it results from a cause.
There are three things God uses to cause us to change.  Leaders, regardless of your faith system, pay attention to this list.
1.  Deep Love – Sometimes leaders simply lose their way.  We become so task driven that we wind up in a place we never expected.  It is in that unexpected territory that we hear the voice of someone we love or respect coaching us, begging us, pleading with us, and yes, loving us to change.
2.  Deep Loss – Loss happens when our value as leaders has been diluted.  Loss happens when something of value has been lost.  Loss happens when you personally are in an environment of filth and uncleanliness.  You have a deep sense of loss when you are forced to utter the words, “I (or you or we) are better than this!”
3.  Deep Lack – Lack is having something in the bank but it doesn’t satisfy your heart.  Lack is having a big house, plenty of food, and the corner office but you feel empty.  Lack is what happens within you, not around you.  True sadness is also when you have nothing and God won’t give you anything.
When you or your church, business, or team has Deep Love, Deep Loss, or Deep Lack, then it is time to change.
Are you there?

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Christians on Leadership, Calling and Career

Christians on Leadership, Calling and Career

April 18, 2013 – No matter what’s happening around the world, leadership takes center stage. Kim Jong Un is leading his nation to the brink of war. A group of Senators is directing their Senate compatriots to adopt new policies about illegal immigration. People speculate where the new Pope and the new Archbishop of Canterbury will take their respective churches. On a daily basis, the cable news talking heads either applaud or excoriate the leadership of President Obama. Concern over leadership is, it seems, everywhere in church and culture.
But that also makes it difficult to define. Leadership is one of those “if you see it, you know it” kind of qualities. It’s something Americans clearly value, all the way from their immediate employer to their minister to their president. And, according to a new survey conducted by the Barna Group, more than eight in ten (82%) Christian adults believe the United States is facing a crisis of leadership because there aren’t enough leaders. What do people value in a leader? What is the Christian perspective of leadership? And is the younger generation looking for a different type of leader?
The Traits that Make a Leader
What’s the most important quality in a leader? According to a new survey of Christian adults conducted by the Barna Group in conjunction with Brad Lomenick, president of the Catalyst conference, the primary answer is “integrity.” More than half (64%) of Christians say integrity is one of the most important traits a leader must have. Other traits Christians say are important include authenticity (40% listed this as a vital characteristic) and discipline (38%). In fact, Christian adults chose all three of these qualities above “passion for God”—less than one-third (31%) listed that as a necessary trait. The traits Christian adults were least likely to select as most important are humility (7%) and purpose (5%).
Among evangelical Christians, who are a subset of the larger group of self-identified Christians, the results are largely the same with one notable exception—more than eight out of ten (83%) evangelicals listed “passion for God” as an important trait for leaders, compared with the 31% of all Christians. Passion for God was the number one trait evangelicals look for in a leader. Evangelicals selected integrity as the second most important leadership quality.
But practically, where do those answers lead Christians? What are they really looking for in a leader they have to interact with on a daily basis? Put simply: what do Christian adults look for in a boss? The research also explored the kinds of characteristics that people want to find in their boss.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, the same top two characteristics emerged when asking about important leadership qualities and important employer traits: integrity (57%) and authenticity (47%). But after that, the lists diverge. Whereas Christians value discipline, passion for God and competence in their leaders, they want to actually work for a boss who is collaborative, competent and humble. Passion for God drops from fourth place to seventh, perhaps reflecting people’s recognition that the workplace is not necessarily filled with believers. Still, among evangelicals, finding a boss who is a believer remains the most important criterion in their job search.
Younger Christians—those aged 18-39—are slightly more interested in collaboration and purpose than are Christians over 40. They are also much more likely than older adults to look for bosses who are humble, with nearly one-third (32%) of 18-39 year-olds listing humility as a key trait in a potential boss.
Who Is Leading in a Crisis of Leadership?
More than eight in ten (82%) Christians believe the United States is facing a crisis of leadership because there aren’t enough leaders. So who are the people rising as leaders to meet that challenge?
More than half of Christians in this country identify themselves as leaders (58%). Yet, less than one-sixth (15%) say their primary leadership trait is integrity, the quality Christians were most likely to name as an important leadership trait. In fact, Christians are most likely to identify their primary leadership trait as competence (20%), followed by discipline (16%), collaboration (15%), integrity (15%) and authenticity (14%). Only 1% of Christians say they are best at being humble, (it is perhaps ironic that anyone would self-describe in this manner). Evangelicals are cut from a different bolt of cloth, naming passion for God as their best leadership quality (42%), compared with only 4% who named competence as their defining leadership trait.
In the Barna survey, leaders were also asked what they would most like to improve about their leadership, using the same list of 10 traits. The area where they said they want the most help is courage (27%), followed by a desire to grow in terms of discipline (17%), vision (15%) and passion for God (13%). Evangelical leaders are most similar to the broader Christian market in terms of their aspirations to improve as leaders: they want to grow in courage (27%), discipline (25%), passion for God (14%) and vision (9%).
Your Calling or Just a Job?
Many people discuss job or career in terms of “calling”—it’s prevalent in much of the writing and conversations surrounding the topic of leadership. Particularly among Christians, one’s occupation is often talked about in relation to God’s “calling.” And yet, only about one-third of Christians (34%) feel called to the work they currently do (among those who are presently employed). This is much higher among evangelicals (55%), but still reflects a huge gap in terms of the Christian community’s sense of divine purpose in their work. Others say they “do not feel called” (19%), indicate they are “not sure” (13%), or admit they have “never thought about it before” (34%).
Younger Christians are less likely to feel called to their work than do older Christians (31% versus 36%). However, older Christians are even more likely than the younger set to confess they have never really considered the idea of being called to their current role (26% versus 38%).
So, if many Christians don’t necessarily feel called to the work they’re doing, what does that mean? The Barna study asked employed Christian adults if they believe God is calling them to do something else in terms of work, but they have not been willing to make a change yet because of their current life situation. Overall, about one out of ten working Christians (9%) agreed strongly with that feeling and another quarter (26%) agreed somewhat, totaling one-third of today’s employed Christians (35%) who are experiencing this kind of tension about their calling. Among younger Christians though, nearly half (44%) are feeling this disconnect between their perceived calling from God and the realities of their current employment.
When asked if they believe a person’s calling lasts a lifetime, on balance, most people disagree rather than agree (68% versus 32%). In fact, only 4% strongly agree that a person can see what he or she is called to do from an early age.
What the Research Means
The research was directed and analyzed by David Kinnaman, president of Barna Group. He offered the following observations about the implications of the study:
1. Christians perceive a significant leadership crisis in America caused by a distinct lack of leaders. Most feel they are leaders, but many of them aren’t confident that their leadership abilities are the most important traits in a leader. This suggests many of them are still striving to meet even their own leadership expectations and it means many Christians may not think of their own leadership as helping to fill the leadership gap they experience. Perhaps this is why they are most interested in growing in terms of courage.
2. Evangelicals are far more likely than all self-described Christians to say passion for God is an essential leadership quality. That suggests evangelicals are much more comfortable working for people who share their beliefs and may not believe non-Christian bosses they work for are great leaders. In an increasingly secular context, evangelicals will have to navigate working with and for leaders who have a different definition of effective leadership.
3. It’s illuminating to learn how few Christians believe they’re called to do what they do. This data presents a challenge to the popular Christian understanding of career as calling since most Christians in the U.S. don’t seem to be thinking about their jobs in terms of calling. Most of the data suggests the concept of calling is not on their radar. If people don’t feel as if they’re being called to their job, does that really matter to the quality of the work they do or the lives they maintain? It is worth noting the trend that younger Christians feel more of a desire to see their career as a calling—and are more discontent when they feel a disconnect between their career and calling. However, is this perceived disconnect simply the reality of finding a fulfilling job when you’re young and inexperienced—especially in a bad economy? Is it the common angst of young people trying to figure out the purpose of their life? Or is it a sign of a growing trend among Christians to connect their faith more holistically with their life—a desire not to compartmentalize faith, life and work? Additional research and study is needed to clarify the connection between calling, leadership and faith.
About the Research
The study on which this report is based included online surveys with 1,116 adults who were randomly chosen from the United States who also consider themselves Christian. The maximum margin of sampling error for a sample of that size is estimated to be within +2.8 percentage points at the 95% confidence level.
The study was conducted between June 5 and June 11, 2012 using the web-enabled KnowledgePanel®, a probability-based panel designed to be representative of the U.S. population, operated by Knowledge Networks. Initially, participants are chosen scientifically by a random selection of telephone numbers and residential addresses. Persons in selected households are then invited by telephone or by mail to participate in the web-enabled panel. For those who agree to participate, but do not already have Internet access, Knowledge Networks provides a laptop and ISP connection at no cost. People who already have computers and Internet service are permitted to participate using their own equipment. Panelists receive unique log-in information for accessing the online survey they were recruited to participate in.
"Evangelicals" meet the born again criteria (described below) plus seven other conditions. Those include saying their faith is very important in their life today; believing they have a personal responsibility to share their religious beliefs about Christ with non-Christians; believing that Satan exists; believing that eternal salvation is possible only through grace, not works; believing that Jesus Christ lived a sinless life on earth; asserting that the Bible is accurate in all that it teaches; and describing God as the all-knowing, all-powerful, perfect deity who created the universe and still rules it today. Being classified as an evangelical is not dependent upon church attendance or the denominational affiliation of the church attended. Respondents were not asked to describe themselves as "evangelical."
The research was commissioned by Brad Lomenick, who is the author of a new book on leadership called Catalyst Leader.
For the purposes of this research, the following short descriptions were given to respondents on the 10 leadership characteristics.
Courage – being willing to take risks
Vision – knowing where you are going
Competence – being good at what you do
Humility – giving credit to others
Collaboration – working well with others
Passion for God – loving God more than anything else
Integrity – doing the right thing
Authenticity – being truthful and reliable
Purpose – being made for or “called” to the job
Discipline – the ability to stay focused and get things done
About Barna Group
Barna Group (which includes its research division, the Barna Research Group) is a private, non-partisan, for-profit organization under the umbrella of the Issachar Companies. It conducts primary research, produces media resources pertaining to spiritual development, and facilitates the healthy spiritual growth of leaders, children, families and Christian ministries.
Located in Ventura, California, Barna Group has been conducting and analyzing primary research to understand cultural trends related to values, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors since 1984. If you would like to receive free e-mail notification of the release of each update on the latest research findings from Barna Group, you may subscribe to this free service at the Barna website (www.barna.org). Additional research-based resources are also available through this website.
© Barna Group, 2013.

5 Essential Characteristics Of Leading

5 Essential Characteristics Of Leading

I love promoting other leadership bloggers and Dan Black is one of my favorites!  He has a passion to help people of influence reach their potential. He writes about leadership at danblackonleadership.com. You can connect with him on Twitter and also get a free leadership quote eBook by clicking here.
Dan recently wrote a wonderful post entitled 5 Essential Characteristics Of Leading.  He has graciously agreed to guest blog and share those thoughts with you.  Enjoy this post and do not forget to visit his site.
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If you want to be a great leader it requires some indispensable characteristics and qualities. I have already written on some important Quality’s of a Leader, so today let’s focus on some characteristic of an effective leader.
  1.  Visionary- A leader must have a clear picture of the future while remaining focused on the present. This can be hard because as Jonathan Swift said, “Vision is the art of seeing things invisible.” If a leader takes the time to think about the future of their industry and the possible changes, then they will see the “invisible” and stay ahead of today’s fast paced society. Effective leaders have a clear picture of the future then gather people around them who can produce results which lead to the vision being accomplished.
  2.  Team Builder- An essential characteristic of leading others is the ability to build and maintain teams of people. Good leaders know the value of having a united team that can effectively work together to produce results. This can be done if a leader puts the right people in the right places within the team or organization. Doing this requires taking the time to know and understand your people
  3. Communicator- A leader needs to be able to effectively communicate with others, both verbally and non-verbally. The leader’s words and body language needs to be lined up with the message they are communicating. Becoming a better communicator is a skill every leader must develop. This is because so much of leadership is about communicating. James Humes said, “The art of communication is the language of leadership.”
  4. Change Agent- Leaders need to avoid the dangers of not changing by becoming change agents. The status quo might be to stay the same and resist change but effective leaders chose to rise above the status quo and create change. Great organizations and teams only happen if the leader is moving forward. Many of the businesses and organizations that have fallen during the recession were resistant change and kept doing what they have always done. Those who have stayed strong have leaders who were creating change.
  5. Producer- Effective leaders have the ability to produce and can influence others to produce results in given areas. The true test of an effective leader is their ability to produce desired results, whether it’s individual or team results. It’s wise to remember leadership and results are closely connected with each other.
Question: What other characteristics would you add to the list?
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