Wednesday, September 4, 2013

My Secret Sauce: 11 Things I Have Learned About Effectively Serving Pastors

My Secret Sauce: 11 Things I Have Learned About Effectively Serving Pastors

The final week of August is one of my favorite weeks of the year.  It was on August 26th, 2002 when I began my vocational career serving pastors and church leaders with Injoy Stewardship Solutions.  After a 10-year run helping with capital campaign related issues, I was privileged to then join The Rocket Company this past February.
I now help pastors and church leaders preach better sermons, increase weekly giving, and gain, train and retain volunteers.  That’s 11 years and counting serving these great men and women who give their lives to serve us.
I have always counted it a high privilege to be a friend to pastors.  It is a humbling responsibility that daily drives me to my knees begging God to help me.
So in honor of 11 years serving pastors and church leaders, the following are 11 things I would advise anyone to do who wish to enter this industry.  This is my secret sauce.
  1. Understand The Value Of A Pastor’s Time – Everyone is wanting it.  If they choose to give you some, it is a high compliment so don’t waste it.  Your skill level must be high.
  2. Schedule Calls In Advance – This goes along with valuing their time.  Use email, text, or social media to schedule calls in advance.  Don’t cold call unless absolutely necessary.
  3. Be Sensitive To What A Pastor May Be Facing That Day – For all you know, a pastor may have faced people who are sick or dying, unemployment issues with those in their church, marriages failing, staff issues, or even angry emails, letters, and phone calls just before your call.  Your conversation should be refreshing and upbeat.  They already have enough challenges.  Provide them relief and solutions.
  4. How A Pastor Wakes Up – You woke up thinking about your scheduled call with them because it is your job.  They did not wake up thinking about you.
  5. Use The Web – Before you connect with a pastor, read the church’s website.  See what the current sermon series is and know the church’s upcoming special events.  Whenever possible, listen to an online sermon.
  6. Pretend You Are In The Church Lobby – Conversations with pastors should be normal and relaxed.  Whenever I’m on the phone with a pastor, I always picture myself in the lobby with them after a morning service.  Say what you would say in the lobby.
  7. Their Issue Is The Issue So Serve Them Rather Than Sell Them – It is counterintuitive but the more you focus on helping pastors succeed, the more sales you will make.  The more sales you try to make, the less you will succeed.
  8. Don’t Embarrass Them…EVER – Whenever you are on a conference call or in a meeting with a pastor, always promote the good things about them or the church in front of their staff.  This is not manipulation.  It is respect.
  9. The Pastor’s Wife – Be very, very kind to the pastor’s wife.  For that matter, you should show great respect to all the women in the church.  You would think in 2013 people would already know this.  I’ve been around too many people who don’t.
  10. Enlarge Their Platform – One of the favorite parts of my job is after a great conversation, I always verify the pastor’s Twitter account and give them a shout out on the web.  They love this and so do I.
  11. Be Their Friend – Once again, everyone wants something from pastors.  As a result, many are lonely and have few people they can trust.  I have had literally hundreds of conversations where all I do is tell pastors they are doing a good job and they can make it.  I may not always make a sale with that individual but God always makes it up ten-fold somewhere else.
And here is a bonus one:
  • Follow Up – Always send some form of recap email after calls or meetings.  Pastors are very busy so don’t expect them to remember your conversation.  This also shows professionalism on your part.
I love pastors enough to give away all my secrets.  My desire is for everyone – bankers, architects, builders, stewardship companies, etc… – to treat pastors and church leaders with excellence.  They literally fight heaven and hell everyday on our behalf.  They deserve our respect and best efforts.

The Top 10 Leadership Posts I Read The Week Of August 26th

The Top 10 Leadership Posts I Read The Week Of August 26th

I love leaders who make me a better leader.  I love the people who stretch my mind, challenge my assumptions, and live lives that inspire me to get better.  That is why I love this week’s Top 10 list.
Here are some of the topics covered – time management, relationships, BHAGs, numbers, sports, parenting, and even life in America.  Where I was most challenged this week was by Perry Noble.  Let’s say your church as 38,227 people in attendance this weekend and 1,500 of them accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, NOW WHAT?  Perry tells you.
You will want to read these posts.  Check them out and let me know your thoughts.
by Rich Birch
Well that is my Top 10.  What other great posts did you read this week?

Why Tim Tebow Can Look To NorthStar Church Senior Pastor Mike Linch For Inspiration

Why Tim Tebow Can Look To NorthStar Church Senior Pastor Mike Linch For Inspiration

As I type this post ESPN is reporting the New England Patriots will cut Tim Tebow today potentially ending his playing career.  Lee Corso, one the hosts of the great College Gameday show, said, “He’s got more important things to do than play quarterback in the NFL.”
This announcement reminds me of a story Mike Linch often tells.  For those unfamiliar with Mike, he is one of my best friends and the incredible senior pastor of the great NorthStar Church in Kennesaw, GA.
Coming out of high school, Mike was recruited to play baseball for Liberty University where he would pitch under the leadership of former New York Yankee Bobby Richardson.  As his senior year approached, Richardson retired and a new coach and staff were put in place.  Mike had waited three years to play a starring role, a role that could potentially propel him into professional sports.  But the new coach and staff had different plans.
Mike was advised by his new coach (and I’m paraphrasing) that he wanted to play the young guys, bring in his own players, and start building his own program.  This is completely understandable and happens everyday with sports teams, businesses, and yes even churches.  But that is no consolation when you are the one who is affected.
Showing glimpses of the character which would one day help make him one of America’s top pastors, Mike spent his senior season having a great attitude, cheering on his teammates, and supporting the program.  Unbeknownst to Mike, what started as a tremendous disappointment would turn out to be one of the greatest blessings of his life.  Mike would not become a professional pitcher but God redirected his life and he did become an absolutely wonderful pastor who has touched the lives of thousands of people like me.
Mike’s life has been an inspiration to anyone who have ever felt their dreams and plans have been thwarted.  He reminds us God is always in control and has greater plans for our lives.
I still think Tim Tebow is one of the best 96 quarterbacks in pro football.  I know he would be one of the top 15 fullbacks in the game.  But if Tim’s playing career is concluding, I know God has a much better plan for him that will be more fulfilling and bring God greater glory than even football ever could.
I want to tell Tim Tebow “Thank You”.  You were a great player but an even better person.  You have lived your life with character, dignity, grace, respect, love, mercy, and been a true picture of what a Christ-follower looks like.  I can’t wait to see how God is going to use you moving forward.

11 Practices Of Leaders With Guts And Determination: The Faith Of Teddy Bridgewater

11 Practices Of Leaders With Guts And Determination: The Faith Of Teddy Bridgewater

What type of individual in Louisville Cardinal quarterback Teddy Bridgewater?  In addition to being the best quarterback in college football, a Heisman Trophy favorite and probable top-2 pick in the 2014 NFL Draft, Teddy is a strong Christian who deeply loves Jesus.
In an article in April 24th The Southeast Outlook, Teddy said, ““As a 9-year-old, I was running into trouble, hanging out with the wrong crowd.  I have a single-parent background, moving often from home to home. A lot was happening with my family. One Sunday I went to the front of the church and poured my heart out to God. He gets all the praise and all the glory for what’s happened in my life.”
Now an usher and member of the choir of Mount Olive Baptist Church in Miami, Bridgewater is also a strong support of the University of Louisville Fellowship of Christian Athletes ministry.  He says, “FCA has been a phenomenal part of my life.  It’s more than getting together to read the Bible and sing a song.  FCA has been phenomenal for me. We get in-depth Bible study.”
Bridgewater has a special fondness for the verse Philippians 4:13: “I can do everything through him who gives me strength.”
“My strength comes from above,” Bridgewater said. “It’s the backbone of my life. Because of my faith, I can get back up. If I get hit, I can get back up.”
Because of his guts and determination Bridgewater has been getting back up from hits most of his life.  In one of the previous quotes he mentioned a lot was going on with his family.  To hear that inspiring story, check out the ESPN video below:http://youtu.be/nVyhXXug944
After watching the video, I was able to glean from both Teddy Bridgewater and his mom Rose the following 11 Practices Of Leaders With Guts And Determination:
  1. Leaders With Guts And Determination Have It Modeled To Them By Others - Louisville head coach Charlie Strong says, ”When you look at Teddy Bridgewater, (his mom) Rose is the reason he is who he is.”
  2. Leaders With Guts And Determination Have Support – Rose says, “The more you interact with your child and your child see you are supporting him, that goes a long way because a lot of parents would just drop their kids off.”
  3. Leaders With Guts And Determination Face Overwhelming Trials – In 2008, Rose was diagnosed with breast cancer.
  4. Leaders With Guts And Determination Address Issues - Teddy spent much of his time helping his mother with her cancer treatments.
  5. Leaders With Guts And Determination Have Purpose - Teddy said, “I had a purpose in life and at the time my purpose was to protect my mom.”
  6. Leaders With Guts And Determination Don’t Give Up - When Teddy considered quitting football, his mom reminded him “You can’t give up.  God has given you a gift and you have to use it to the best of your ability.”
  7. Leaders With Guts And Determination Fulfill Their Responsibilities - Teddy marveled that “even though she was diagnosed with breast cancer she would still attend my games.”
  8. Leaders With Guts And Determination Kill Giants - “I wanted to show him I wasn’t giving up.  Cancer is a giant and giants do fall.  And it was just a matter of time before that giant fell” said Rose in inspirational fashion.
  9. Leaders With Guts And Determination Think Long-Term - Teddy knew the long-term effects if he quit football.  “If I quit now I’ll be quitting on her.  I’ll be quitting on life.  I kept playing ball.”
  10. Leaders With Guts And Determination Inspire Others - “He (Teddy) always says I’m his #1 fan but he’s my #1 fan and I got my inspiration from him.  He was my hero and he’s still my hero,” says Rose.
  11. Leaders With Guts And Determination Leave A Great Legacy - “Her fight, her determination makes me the person I am today.  She was determined to beat breast cancer and I’m determined to be successful in life.”
Teddy, you are already a success in life and I’m rooting for you to win the Heisman Trophy.  What a great scene it would be to witness Teddy Bridgewater win the aware with his mom in attendance.  Let’s hope that happens.

A Special Message From Brian Dodd On Leadership

A Special Message From Brian Dodd On Leadership

September will be a very special month for this site and myself personally.  Over three years ago I launched this site to help leaders process their life experiences through a leadership context.  In other words, together we could become better leaders by finding leadership principles in just about anything.
Because of your generosity, this blog has become very successful.  So much so, that later in September I will be releasing my first BOOK!!!  Trust me, more on that very soon but talks are already underway for a 2nd.
Let me give you just a small preview.  I hear pastors and church leaders constantly say they want to create a leadership culture but no one knows exactly how to do that.  No system for leadership development exists.  Until now!  Like I said, more on that very soon.
In honor of the book’s release, I am dedicating the month of September to Best Practices.  With the exception of a few dedicated posts, I will spend the entire month analyzing the practices of the very best leaders, churches, sports teams, and organizations.  We are going to learn a lot and get even better as leaders.
Before we move into September, let’s take a quick look back at August.  August 2013 was the 4th most successful month in this site’s history.  In fact, readership was 42% over August 2012.  That is HUGE.  Thank you!!!
I am blown away by your kindness and constant referrals.  It is always humbling that you would give up your precious time to visit this site.  I trust its content has added value to you as a leader.
The following are the Top 10 Most Read Leadership Posts Of August 2013 as determined by you the readers:
  1. 21 Lessons From The Girl Voted Ugliest On The Internet Who Is In Fact Strikingly Beautiful
  2. Should Christians See Lee Daniels’ The Butler?
  3. 11 Practices Of Highly Successful Leaders Over The Age Of 50
  4. 13 Practices Of Leaders Who Save Dying Organizations
  5. 10 Ways To Create Churches Angry Millennials Love To Attend
  6. Live Blog From The 2013 Global Leadership Summit – 17 Leadership Quotes From Andy Stanley
  7. 14 Leadership Lessons Everyone Should Know
  8. 3 Things Pastors Can Do To Be More Likable
  9. 5 Ways Christian Leaders Should Respond To Enemies And Critics
  10. The Top 10 Leadership Posts I Read The Week Of August 12th
The following are also 3 hidden gems which were personal favorites that did not make the Top 10.  I hope you enjoy them the second time around.
  1. Does Your Generosity And Obedience Have Limits?
  2. 14 Lessons Pastors Need To Know About Effectively Serving Business Leaders
  3. 30 Practices Of Leaders Who Are The Best Of Their Generation: Leadership Quotes From Tom Brady
Once again, it has been an absolute joy serving you.  I can’t wait to for September.

15 Leadership Quotes From Derwin Gray’s New Book Limitless Life

15 Leadership Quotes From Derwin Gray’s New Book Limitless Life


I have said it often and will restate it today – Derwin Gray, Senior Pastor of the wonderful Transformation Church in Indian Land, SC, is America’s leading voice on multi-ethnic and multi-generational ministry.  He is a dear friend and an absolutely incredible leader.
Releasing on September 3rd, Pastor Derwin’s latest book Limitless Life: You Are More Than Your Past When God Holds Your Future is a must-read for all leaders and those they influence.  There is not a time that I speak with, listen to, or read his writings that I do not come away more encouraged and convinced God can do amazing things in my life.
If you think your past is an anchor and God cannot use you, click here or on the image above and order this book TODAY.  You will be both inspired and equipped to become everything God wants you to be.
The reason this book resonates with me so much is the numerous accounts of real-life Transformation Church attendees who have discovered the power of the transformed and exchanged life through Jesus Christ.  Pastor Derwin tells their stories in great detail.  In reality, I saw myself in many.  This book isn’t theory or hyperbole.  These are real stories about real people who now live limitless lives.
To give you a picture of what you can expect, the following are 15 leadership quotes from Limitless Life:
  1. “Many great, epic displays of God’s glory through His children are built on hours, even years, of an unnoticeable, seemingly unimportant task.”
  2. “David was courageous because He saw the bigness of God in his past.  While David was protecting sheep, God had empowered him to slay lions and bears, and he had experienced God’s faithfulness.”
  3. “Addiction is a cruel master whose sole objective is to destroy the addict – and anyone else in his or her life.  No addict ever suffers alone.”
  4. “The truth is, we do not have addiction problems.  We have misdirected worship.”
  5. “Cast out, Satan nurtured a hatred for God that burned deep in his diseased heart and that spilled over to humanity because we reminded him of God.  Like God, we are able to love, create, choose, and feel.  Like Him, we each have a mind, will, and emotions.  This is what it means to be made in God’s image and likeness.  Satan can’t touch God, but he can touch and make a mess out of our lives.”
  6. “I have learned that the people who manage to climb out of emotional quicksand are those who intentionally stop the cruel, destructive habit of revisiting in their minds the events or the people who have hurt them.”
  7. “I loved Coach Mike Sullivan, my defensive back coach at Converse Judson High School, because he brought the best out of me!  I also had a strong dislike for him because he brought the best out of me!”
  8. “People may have given up on you.  But Jesus has not.  As long as you have breath in your lungs, Jesus will not give up on you.  Ever.  The skeletons in your closet do not scare Him.”
  9. “God’s gift to humanity is not based on our goodness or lack of goodness, but based solely, entirely, and completely on God’s goodness.”
  10. “Why does ethnic diversity in the local church matter?  It matters to Jesus because it displays the church’s unity, which helps unbelievers realize that Jesus really did come to rescue the world.”
  11. “Pride produces spiritually arrogant people who look down on others who haven’t climbed the stairway to heaven as high as they have…Pride also produces people who hide their sins from God and others.”
  12. “Some of the deepest, darkest sin issues I have counseled people through have been with longtime churchgoers.”
  13. “Dewey, I’m sorry for the way I treated you.  I was wrong.  You are a great man, a wonderful husband to my daughter, and a great dad.  I love you.  I’m so proud of you; I consider it an honor to call you son.” – Derwin’s father-in-law
  14. “Consumers are empty selves.  Contributors are maturing in their ‘full and true life in Christ.’  Consumers lived limited lives.  Contributors live without limits.”
  15. “I have lived the American Dream.  I’ve been on TV since I was seventeen and signed autographs since I was eighteen.  I’ve been a famous professional football player, partied with celebrities, and worked on TV.  I have a wonderful woman who has dazzled me with her beauty for more than twenty years.  Yet,none of those external things gave me the joy that only Jesus can provide.”
Once again, I cannot recommend this book enough.  It will give you a fresh picture of who God made you to be and equip you to live a life that is truly limitless.

5 Practices Of Successful Leaders Who Survived Difficult Times

5 Practices Of Successful Leaders Who Survived Difficult Times

All leaders go through difficult times.  They are inevitable.  Sometimes the challenges come from our own poor choices.  Sometimes they result from the actions of others, and other times from no one’s fault at all.  They just happen.
Inc. magazine is one of my favorites publications and one of their best issues is the annual 500 Fastest Growing Private Companies In America.  One of the key learnings from this edition are the insights provided by some of today’s top CEOs on surviving difficult times.
Their thoughts will help anyone who leads a church, sports team, business, non-profit, or even their family.  The following are 5 Practices Of Leaders Who Survive Difficult Times:
  1. Leaders Who Survive Difficult Times Humble Themselves – GSATI CEO Cindy Tysinger was forced to borrow money from a family during a difficult financial stretch.  Being humble and asking others for help is key to surviving difficult times.
  2. Leaders Who Survive Difficult Times Physically Exercise – The pressures of business and formidable competition were causing BoomTown CEO Grier Allen tremendous stress which resulted in poor anger management.  He noted, “Running releases a lot of stress.  It clears my mind and lets me detach from the digital world for a little while.  If I don’t get out and run at least twice or three times a week, I just start feeling crazy.”
  3. Leaders Who Survive Difficult Times Find Support From Other Leaders – EnSite Solutions CEO Toby Thomas realized his need to have other leaders for support when he had a falling out with his initial business partners.  Thomas said, “When you go into a business with partners, you’re spreading the risk out.  But when you suddenly don’t have that support system, it’s like you’re in a black hole.”
  4. Leaders Who Survive Difficult Times Think Long-Term – Failure is part of the success journey.  Renegade Furniture Group CEO Visroel Bruce Krinsky advises to be in your decisions for the long haul.  He wisely advised, “If you can think of any problem you have today, picture your reaction in seven years.  Will it be affecting you then?”
  5. Leaders Who Survive Difficult Times Develop A Healthy Self-Image – Mixbook CEO Andrew Laffoon was turned down often early in his career by a number of venture capitalists.  Rejection often destroys many leaders.  He advises all leaders that “if your identity is all wrapped up in this company you’ve built, when someone rejects it, they’re rejecting you.”
Humble Yourself, Exercise, Find Support From Other Leaders, Think Long-Term, and Develop A Healthy Self-Image.  If you have these 5 practices in your life, you may be a leader who survives difficult times.
What are other practices you have put in place to survive difficult times?