Saturday, June 25, 2016

The Best Question to Ask Yourself When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

The Best Question to Ask Yourself When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

Overwhelmed
“What are you believing about God right now?”
I remember one night when I expressed to my wife, Kristi, that I was feeling overwhelmed. At that time she asked me an incisive question: “What are you believing about God right now?”
This is a brilliant question to ask any time you are feeling disquieted in spirit, or anytime you’re feeling depressed or discouraged. I answered Kristi, “Well, if I am feeling overwhelmed, I guess I’m believing that God is giving me too much to bear. I guess I’m believing that God won’t be faithful to help me. Which in essence means I guess I’m believing that God has lied to me and is not good.”
Kristi’s question revealed that I was thinking hard thoughts of God.
Many Christians think hard thoughts of God by believing their heavenly Father is continually disappointed with them. This reveals a deficient grasp of the Gospel, which tells us that in Christ God sees believers as justified—“just-as-if-I’d-never-sinned,” and “just-as-if-I’d-always-perfectly-obeyed.” In other words, because of the blood of Christ, God declares us not guilty, and because of the obedience of Christ, God declares us to be positively righteous. Our heavenly Father looks upon his children with overflowing love, gentleness and compassion, not disappointment, anger and frustration. If we think that God is continually disappointed in us, that is thinking hard thoughts of God. John Owen says,
“Consider that it is the greatest desire of God the Father that you should have loving fellowship with him. His greatest desire is that you should receive him into your soul as one full of love, tenderness and kindness to you. Flesh and blood is apt to think hard thoughts of God, to think that he is always angry and incapable of being pleased with his sinful creatures, that it is not for them to draw near to him…’I knew that you were a hard man,’ said the evil servant in the Gospel.” (Communion with God, 31)
When we suffer and go through trials we can be tempted to think hard thoughts of God. We can think God is not good, God is not faithful, God does not hear my prayers, God does not have loving intentions toward me.
But the Bible is filled with promises like Lamentations 3:21-23:
But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
What are you believing about God right now? Do you have hard thoughts of God? Or do you believe your heavenly Father is filled with love and tender feelings for you? Do you believe he delights in you and rejoices over you with singing (Zeph. 3:17)? Do you believe he is good and working all things together for your good? Do you believe his steadfast love to you never ceases? Meditate today on God’s tender love for you in Christ and give him praise.

12 Killers of Good Leadership

12 Killers of Good Leadership

Leadership
“To grow as a leader—to be successful at a higher level or for the long-term—we must address these killers.”
I know numerous leaders with great potential. They have all the appearance of being a good leader. But they lack one thing—or two.
In my experience, some of this was self-learned the hard way, there are a few killers of good leadership.
I decided to compile a list of some of the most potent killers I’ve observed. Any one of these can squelch good leadership. It’s like a wrecking ball of potential. If not addressed, they may even prove to be fatal.
It’s not that the person can’t continue to lead, but to grow as a leader—to be successful at a higher level or for the long-term—they must address these killers.

Here are 12 killers of good leadership:

Defensiveness—Good leaders don’t wear their feelings on their shoulders. They know other’s opinions matter and aren’t afraid to be challenged. They are confident enough to absorb the wounds intended to help them grow.
Jealousy—A good leader enjoys watching others on the team excel—is even willing to help them.
Revenge—The leader that succeeds for the long-term must be forgiving and graceful—knowing that “getting even” only comes back to harm them and the organization.
Fearfulness—A good leader remains committed when no one else is and takes risks no one else will. Others will follow. It is what leaders do.
Favoritism—Good leaders don’t have favorites on the team. They reward for results, not partiality.
Ungratefulness—Good leaders value people—genuinely—knowing they cannot attain success without others.
Small-mindedness—Good leaders think bigger than today. They are dreamers and idea people.
Pridefulness—Pride comes before the fall. Good leaders remain humbled by the position of authority entrusted to them.
Rigidity—There are some things to be rigid about, such as values and vision, but for most issues, the leader must be open to change. Good leaders welcome new ideas, realizing that most everything can be improved.
Laziness—One can’t be a good leader and not be willing to work hard. In fact, the leader should be willing to be the hardest worker on the team.
Unresponsiveness—Good leaders don’t lead from behind closed doors. They are responsive to the needs and desires of those they attempt to lead. They respond to concerns and questions. They collaborate more than control. Leaders who close themselves off from those they lead will limit the places where others will follow.
Dishonesty—Since character counts highest, a good leader must be above reproach. When a leader fails, he or she must admit their mistake and work toward restoration.
A leader may struggle with one or more of these, but the goal should be to lead “killer-free.” Leader, be honest, which of these wrecking balls do you struggle with most?
What would you add to my list?

10 Hallmarks of a Leader of Leaders

10 Hallmarks of a Leader of Leaders

Hallmarks Of A Leader Of Leaders
“Some leaders attract followers—others attract leaders.”
Some leaders attract followers—others attract leaders. And still others have the uncanny ability to turn followers INTO leaders. So, what kind of leader are you? Test yourself with this list of qualities that I consider to be signs that you are a ‘Leader of Leaders.’
#1 Leaders are INSPIRED by your LIFE.
If you are a leader of leaders, your apparent success may be inspiring; but even more inspiring is your life! Leaders are not only impressed by what you’ve built, but by your demeanor (your attitude, consistency and character) during the building. Your wisdom—when confronted with overwhelming and perplexing circumstances—along with your attitude toward others, your marriage and family, and the ongoing fruit of your life, will all challenge others that they too can live their lives well. You stretch and inspire other leaders through your big capacity. They believe that If you can absorb the pressure, stay healthy and continue to grow, so too can they.
#2 Leaders are STRENGTHENED by your CONSISTENCY.
If you are a leader of leaders, it means that you have kept turning up, and proven resilience against impossible odds. You have never allowed the difficulty, opposition or pain (of leadership) to poison your spirit. You’ve truly modeled longevity and just as the apostle Paul put it in his letter to the Ephesians: ‘having done all, you are still standing.’ You inspire others that they too can hold fast in the battle with an unquenchable spirit—a spirit that has weathered the storms, but remained un-weathered.
#3 Leaders are CURIOUS about the ‘secret’ to your SUCCESS.
A leader of leaders sparks curiosity and people want to know…how do you do it? What makes you tick? Why do you do it that way? People will travel from afar to come and see it for themselves, or to get one opportunity to quiz you over a coffee. There’s just something a little different about you. Of course, if nothing you do stands out from the rest, then you will never spark curiosity. But an innovative leader has ideas, peculiarities and methods that make others inquisitive. It is my observation that curious people attract curious people. As a kid, my siblings always called me “nosy” because I was always asking questions—I always wanted to know! That nosy-ness has helped frame the way I still live and lead today. My experience with other leaders is that a true leader of leaders will ask the most questions and are the most curious.
#4 Leaders are ENVIOUS of your ACCOMPLISHMENTS.
Perhaps we all define success differently, but your accomplishments are not something to be ashamed of. Only insecure or mean-spirited people are critical of genuine God-breathed success.  Not all envy is evil. In fact, the Amplified bible translates ‘blessed’ as ‘happy, fortunate and to be envied.’ This is not the type of envy or jealousy that eats people up on the inside; but a righteous envy that inspires others toward greater heights, and compels them to live their own lives of significance.
#5 Leaders are ASTOUNDED by your OPENNESS.
If you are a leader of leaders, then you are not ‘guarded’ but have a healthy mix of wisdom about when to speak and when to hold your peace. You avoid the gossip train and don’t try to prove your leadership by having to know everything about everyone. You have nothing to hide and your authenticity makes you easy to follow. You are a locked vault when it comes to confidentiality, but an open book when it comes to accountability and transparency. Other leaders can follow someone who is genuine, unguarded and at times can even laugh at themselves. Such leaders are not ‘precious’ and over sensitive. People do not have to tip toe around you, and you are more likely to put a room at ease than to stiffen everybody up. You often lead with your smile and are quick to show gratitude to those who serve.
#6 Leaders are WARMED by your HUMILITY.
As a leader of leaders you are not filled with your own importance and your feet are still firmly placed on the ground. You have a quiet confidence that emanates a well-rounded security; yet you are self-effacing and aware of your own humanity. You have time for people. And though you have clearly matured, are more seasoned and perhaps your time is now in higher demand—to those who have known you a long time you are still the person they always knew. When people meet you in a cafe or on the street, they are impressed with just how down-to-earth you are. You are consistently and quietly generous and polite to waiters, or those who serve you in the gas station and supermarket. Other leaders will follow ‘real-deal, genuinely humble leaders’ quicker than a know-it-all who is filled with their own importance. Prominent people need to be wise about security, but bodyguards or an entourage is never as impressive as a highly successful leader who simply carries themself with genuine confidence, humility and authenticity.
#7 Leaders are SECURE about your MOTIVES.
It is appealing to others that your commitment to them goes beyond building your own world, and that you are genuinely committed to enhancing their world. You encourage others to dream big dreams, and your interest is clearly not for the sake of ‘building empires.’ While you may be fiercely committed to your own God-given vision, and clearly intentional in your own call, your commitment to other leaders is unselfish and unfettered by personal motive or agenda. Many may want to join your network, come under your umbrella or lean into your leadership and vision—but they can sense that your interest in them goes far beyond yourself.
#8 Leaders are COMMITTED to your PROTECTION.
If you are a leader of leaders, you will naturally attract loyalty. Though opposition may come, you will forever be surrounded by people who have got your back. However, not everyone is going to like you—just like not everyone liked Jesus. Religious people were in fact the most outspoken against the Savior. And while that still might be true for you and me, and even while the silence of some of your peers may roar loudly; there are plenty of leaders who will stand with you in the trenches, and protect your credibility and character. You never have to demand respect or honor, because you naturally attract it and you carry it with dignity and class. You also honor those above, beside and below you—always recognizing that honor is a two-way street. You attract loyalty because you’ve always lifted the ceilings for others and are quick to recommend and promote their cause, as well as your own.
#9 Leaders are BETTER because of your INFLUENCE.
Leaders of leaders leave an imprint on others and many will testify that they are better leaders simply because of you. Those who lean into you and your leadership have ‘caught’ your spirit and the fruit of that can be seen in and through their endeavours. The impact of your life on others has sparked health, momentum and growth; and while you don’t always need the credit, your imprint and influence is clear to see.
#10 Leaders are TESTIMONY to your LEGACY.
“Instead of Your fathers shall be Your sons,
Whom YOU shall make princes in all the earth.”
Psalms 45:16 (my emphasis).
Of course, a true leader of leaders does not only attract other leaders, but they have a long-proven track record of raising up even more leaders. They become a spiritual ‘mum’ or ‘dad’ to others who may even surpass them in stature and measure—and their ‘ceilings’ becomes another generation’s floor.
You see, the greatest testimony to a true LEADER OF LEADERS, is found in the honor of watching your leadership legacy lived out by the next generation of leaders of leaders.

The Gospel Is Not: “You Suck and You’re Gonna Pay For It!”

Hey!
‘Good news’ should sound like, well, good news to people, right? So why in the past did I so often dread sharing my faith or the gospel with someone?
What happened to the Good News? (This should be fun!)
In my new blog/video post I explain how many of us have actually been taught a very small, truncated form of the Bible and have probably ended up with a very small gospel because of it.
The Gospel Is Not: “You Suck and You’re Gonna Pay For It!”
And Christianity is Not About Sin Management


The problem is that for decades the dominant, most frequent teaching and preaching we’ve been exposed to seemingly leaves Genesis 1 and 2 out of the Bible, and it also omits Revelation 21 and 22. 
The story is commonly told from Genesis 3, where humans sin, and ends in Revelation chapter 20 where judgment is coming. And that makes the story of God–the entre Bible–seem to focus on one thing; human sin and an inevitable punishment that awaits. [click to continue]
In this together,
–Caesar

Why Smart Pastors Fail

Why Smart Pastors Fail

Sometimes really smart pastors fail. I think I know some reasons why they do. Recently I read You’re in Charge–Now What by Thomas Neff and James Citrin. The book targets leaders moving into new positions. Whether or not you’re moving into a new ministry role, read this book. It’s a great read. The last chapter is worth the price. The authors give 10 traps for new leaders by playing off the book Why Smart Executives Fail by Sydney Finkelstein whose authors list several destructive behaviors leaders in failing companies show. Below, I’ve tweaked those 10 to make them applicable for ministry leaders.
failure A smart pastor can can fail if he…
  1. Sets expectations too high (by never meeting them) or too low (and thus disappointing high performing leaders in the church).
  2. Makes rash decisions or suffers from analysis paralysis.
  3. Appears to have all the answers.
  4. Ties his or her identity too closely to ministry success.
  5. Fails to see reality (remember the fable ‘The Emperor’s New Clothes”).
  6. Squashes dissenting opinions.
  7. Doesn’t keep his role in context (remember, we are not saviors, Jesus is).
  8. Misses who really holds the power (just because power roles are written down somewhere does not mean they reflect who really holds the power).
  9. Tries to win every battle.
  10. Bad-mouths the previous pastor or ministry leader.
What would you add to this list?
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4 Ways Any Leader Can Be More Generous

Few things are as wonderful as working for a generous leader.  Just so we are clear, I am not just talking about generous financially, though that is definitely part of it.  The most generous leaders also freely give of their time, energy, wisdom, and influence.
Some of the most generous leaders I know are Randy Ongie and team at MAG Bookkeeping.  Recentlyone of the MAG team members, Ivy Sprague, wrote about the organization’s culture of generosity.  What makes their team generous is unique and something all leaders can learn from.  Check out her comments below:
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The term “generosity” usually makes us think of money given to causes or people we value. But as leaders, there are so many things we can give to those around us that don’t necessarily have a dollar value, but pay incredible dividends. In our day-to-day work, we try to give our colleagues these gifts:
  • The gift of assuming the best—when there’s a gap between what’s happened in one of our teams and what we expected, we fill that gap with trust. We assume the best of those we work with, rather than automatically assuming the worst.
  • The gift of attention—nearly all our interactions in our companies are done by video, not only because we want to keep connected with all our virtual teams but also because video conferences make it really hard to multi-task and “check out” of the interaction. People matter to us, and we want to give them our full attention when we’re meeting. We also share our weekly Highs & Lows on our private Facebook group, and leaders make an effort to read those posts and let our teams know we’re thinking of and supporting them when the Lows are expressed. We text, we email, we call and let those team members know we’ve heard them and we’re here for them.
  • The gift of information—not every team member needs to know every detail of our decision-making, but we make an effort to share regularly with all our teams what’s happening at the higher levels of our companies. We host virtual “chats” so our contractors can ask questions of their leaders, and make sure we’re regularly updating our teams on our victories and our challenges.
  • The gift of personalization—we’ve got a really cool practice in our companies called “Frugal WOW“, where we send small gifts to clients and our team when they’ve achieved something awesome or when they’re working through a big challenge. OK, these gifts really do involve money but the point is that they don’t cost much. We make sure these gifts are specific to the person’s interests and personality, to show that we really know who they are and what they’re doing. For example, when this red-haired writer was working through a particularly busy season, I got a tin of cookies from a colleague with a note saying I’m her favorite “ginger snap.” And it pretty much made my entire week!
How can you be more generous with your teams in ways that don’t cost a thing?
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27 Reasons Why Life.Church Led By Pastor Craig Groeschel Is America’s Largest Church

Led by founding and senior pastor Craig Groeschel, Life.Church is America’s largest church.  With its 25 campuses, this incredible ministry based out of Oklahoma City averages over 70,000 in its weekend services.
Recently while out-of-town attending the Southern Baptist Convention, I decided to watch one of their Saturday evening services to better understand the impact of their ministry.
As I watched their online service I gleaned 27 Reasons Why Life.Church Led By Senior Pastor Craig Groeschel Is America’s Largest Church.  The quotes below are from Craig’s message.
  1. The Online Ministry Feels Personal – It is a reality few talk about but most internet campuses drive people towards isolation, not community.  Life.Church had several online hosts.  They even gave you a personal welcome when you joined.
  2. Everyone’s Favorite Sound Is The Sound Of Their Name – You logged on with a nickname.  This provides anonymity but also a chance to interact with others.  FYI, my nickname was Brian1.
  3. The Church’s People Had A Real Names – A gentleman named Alan George gave a personalized online welcome to myself and others in the global community.
  4. Though Hundreds Or Thousands Of Miles Away, They Gave Great Tips On Building A Life.Church Community In Your Own Neighborhood – This is absolutely BRILLIANT!  The host gave great instructions on how the online community could have Watch Party competitions at their homes for the upcoming At The Movies series.
  5. What Gets Rewarded Gets Repeated – They then asked people to send in pictures of their Watch Parties.  Whomever had the most attendees, the Life.Church team would crash their online Watch Party anywhere in the world.  Talk about how to plant churches.  Just brilliant!
  6. They Create Interest – They heavily promoted the upcoming “Bad Advice” series in a way that I wanted to watch it as well.
  7. Craig Teaches Leadership – He said, “When the leader gets better, everybody gets better.”
  8. Craig acknowledged both Jesus-followers and those who are not Jesus-followers were watching.
  9. They Get People Into God’s Word – Craig continually encouraged people to get into a YouVersion Bible reading plan.
  10. They Discuss Sin – “If you do not feel as close to God as you did before, God didn’t move.”
  11. They Discuss God’s Goodness, Greatness And Grace – “There are many that don’t even recognize how far they’ve drifted from the goodness, greatness and grace of God.”
  12. Craig Ambushes People with incredibly hard and challenging Christian truth.  But he does so in the most winsome, humorous way I have seen.  For instance, he did an amazing job of discussing the folly of people who want to drift away from God.
  13. Craig’s Humbleness And Transparency Is Powerful – “This was a real issue in my life at a significant development in my life as a pastor…I ended up playing a role more than I was pursuing Christ…I was a full-time pastor and a part-time follower of Christ.”
  14. Craig Uses Old-School, Traditional Terms Like “Conviction” – “Conviction is a good thing.  It means your heart is good soil.”
  15. Craig Asked People To Change The Condition Of Their Heart – He urged people to ask God to make their heart good.
  16. Craig Constantly Uses Scripture – He used countless Bible verses.
  17. Craig Personalized His Campus Communications – While it is hard to do with 25 campuses, he spoke specifically to several.  This communicates value, importance and that you are part of the centralized ministry.
  18. Craig Explained Repentance In Great Detail
  19. Craig Called For Great Commitment – He asked the people to serve Jesus with all their heart.
  20. Craig Glorified Jesus – “I want to glorify the One Who gave His life for me.”
  21. Craig Provided A Chance For Everyone Attending A Live Campus To Receive Jesus – At the conclusion of the service, he gave people time to respond to Jesus at each of the campuses.
  22. Craig Provided A Chance For Everyone Attending An Online Campus To Receive Jesus – Life.Church provided a link for the online community to respond, “Yes, I want to draw close to God again.”
  23. Craig Gave People Hard Truth As Well As Hope – “There’s a longing inside of you only Christ can fill.”
  24. Craig Offered New Believer Classes To Both The Live And Online Audiences – He invited everyone to email their decisions in and get involved in a new Christian class.
  25. Craig Called The Church to Irrational Generosity – “You are never more like God than when you give…We will lead the way with irrational generosity.”
  26. Craig Gave Both The Live And Online Audiences A Chance To Practice Irrational Generosity – They even provided a link for an online offering.
  27. Life.Church Combines Cutting-Edge Technology With Conservative Messaging To Reach People For Jesus – Craig walked the online community and all campuses through the plan of salvation.
The last point was my greatest takeaway.  If you are looking deliver ministry in a relevant manner while not losing the conservative message of Jesus Christ, watch a Life.Church message this weekend and see how it is done.
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