One Of The Greatest Gifts You Can Give A Young Leader

One Of The Greatest Gifts You Can Give A Young Leader

Recently I heard a person discuss how much they loved reading biographies of successful people.  One of his observations was how rare it is to read biographies of these same successful people’s children.
His premise was successful people do not want their children to struggle like they did growing up.  Therefore, they provide for them as many “blessings” and “advantages” as possible.  What they unknowingly do, however, is rob them of one of the greatest gifts you can give a young leader – the gift of struggle.
I thought about that as I read about the 2009 and 2010 NFL draft classes of the USC Trojans.
In the 2009 NFL Draft, the following are the top 5 USC selections:
Mark Sanchez - New York Jets, Round 1, No. 5 overall
Brian Cushing -Houston Texans, Round 1, No. 15 overall
Clay Matthews - Green Bay Packers, Round 1, No. 26 overall
Rey Maualuga - Cincinnati Bengals, Round 2, No. 38 overall
Fili Moala - Indianapolis Colts, Round 2, No. 56 overall
In the 2010 NFL Draft, the following are the top 5 USC selections:
Taylor Mays - San Francisco 49ers, Round 2, No. 49 overall
Charles Brown - New Orleans Saints, 2nd round, No. 64 overall
Damian Williams - Tennessee Titans, 3rd round, No. 77 overall
Kevin Thomas - Indianapolis Colts, 3rd round, No. 94 overall
Everson Griffen - Minnesota Vikings, 4th round, No. 100 overall
One huge question jumps at you – What happened? These were equally heralded recruits developed in a similar culture of success by the same head coach and many of the same positional coaches. In addition, they had the advantage of learning under that amazing 2009 draft class.
The answer – The Greatest Enemy to Future Success is Past Success.
Here’s why:

1. The Gift of Struggle - Once again, the sacrifices made by the previous generation do not have to be made but the current one. It is a biblical principle that struggle is neccesary for strength.
2. Entitlement - Because struggle does not have to take place on the same level, a sense of entitlement is embedded into their DNA. I am sure many of the players listed, whose talent and measureables were much better than players drafted before them, assumed “We’re USC” and “I’m a 5-star recruit” would be enough. It was not.
3. Increased Competition - When the bar of excellence is established, as it was from Carson Palmer to Mark Sanchez, others will reach that same standard. The 1992 USA men’s basketball team won the Gold Medal by an average of 44 points per game. The 2004 USA team won the Bronze.
4. Leadership Transitions - Assistant Coaches have earned the right to have additional responsibility. Norm Chow, Lane Kiffin, Steve Sarkisian, and Nick Holt all moved on for better opportunities. John Maxwell teaches those closest to leader determine that leader’s success. It is easier to re-load players than it is other leaders.

Are you allowing your children and those on your team to experience the gift of struggle?