Friday, March 27, 2015

7 Things Every Leader Must Quit Now

7 Things Every Leader Must Quit Now

 
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All leaders need to know—and avoid—these unhealthy traps.
I work with a lot of hurting leaders, mostly who lead within our churches. My most recent Ministers Health Survey revealed there are some genuine concerns among our church’s leadership.
I’ve often wished I could say something to every leader. There are some things I’ve learned the hard way. I often share things leadership should do, but today I thought it wise to share some things not to do.

Here are seven things every leader needs to quit:

Measuring success compared to another’s success

Your leadership will not be like someone else’s leadership. It’s not designed to be. You’ll likely be successful in ways other leaders aren’t. Some of those may be visible and measurable, but some may not be.
The goal should be to be the best leader you can be and measure your success by your obedience to being the leader God has designed you to be.

Don’t Miss

Pretending to have all the answers

There’s an unfair expectation many leaders face to be the person with the answer in every situation. Seriously, how’s that working for you?
The sooner you admit you don’t have all the answers, the quicker your team will be willing to fill in your gaps.

Trying to be popular

If you want to be popular, be a celebrity. If you want to be a leader, be willing to do the hard tasks to take people where they need (and probably want to go) but may be resistant to along the way.
Leadership can be lonely at times. Be prepared.

Leading alone

Just because leadership can be lonely doesn’t mean you have to lead alone. Good leaders surround themselves with people who care, people who can hold them accountable and sharpen their character and their faith.
If you have a tendency to separate yourself from others, stop now and reach out to someone. Take a bold risk of being vulnerable and release some of the weight of responsibility you feel.

Acting like it doesn’t hurt

When people you trust betray you … it hurts. When people rebel against your leadership … it hurts. On days where it seems you have more enemies than friends … it hurts. Don’t pretend it doesn’t.
You won’t lead well if you’re a crybaby, but you should have some outlets where you can share your pain.

Trying to control every outcome

Three reasons not to: 1) It doesn’t work. 2) It limits others. 3) It’s not right. Leadership is not about control. It’s about relational influence.
When you control others, you limit people to your abilities. When you empower people, you limit people to their combined abilities as a team … and there’s strength in numbers.

Ignoring the warning signs of burnout

At some point in your leadership, if you really are leading through the deep waters of change, relational differences or simply the stress of wearing the leader hat, you’ll face burnout.
When you start to have more negative thoughts than positive thoughts, when the pressure of leadership is unbearable for a long period of time or when your leadership starts to negatively impact your physical or emotional health or your relationships, it’s time to seek help.
Be honest: Which of these do you most need to quit?
What else would you advise leaders to quit? 

Ron Edmondson Ron Edmondson is a pastor and church leader passionate about planting churches, helping established churches thrive, and assisting pastors and those in ministry think through leadership, strategy and life. Ron has over 20 years business experience, mostly as a self-employed business owner, and he's been helping church grow vocationally for over 10 years. More from Ron Edmondson or visit Ron at http://www.ronedmondson.com/

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